Tuesday, September 29, 2009
Changes within Me!
For the next 5 months I will be changing, both physically and emotionally..more to come
Thursday, September 24, 2009
Myers-Briggs Test
Portrait of an ENFP - Extraverted intuitive Feeling Perceiving(Extraverted Intuition with Introverted Feeling)
The Inspirer
As an ENFP, your primary mode of living is focused externally, where you take things in primarily via your intuition. Your secondary mode is internal, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit in with your personal value system.
ENFPs are warm, enthusiastic people, typically very bright and full of potential. They live in the world of possibilities, and can become very passionate and excited about things. Their enthusiasm lends them the ability to inspire and motivate others, more so than we see in other types. They can talk their way in or out of anything. They love life, seeing it as a special gift, and strive to make the most out of it.
ENFPs have an unusually broad range of skills and talents. They are good at most things which interest them. Project-oriented, they may go through several different careers during their lifetime. To onlookers, the ENFP may seem directionless and without purpose, but ENFPs are actually quite consistent, in that they have a strong sense of values which they live with throughout their lives. Everything that they do must be in line with their values. An ENFP needs to feel that they are living their lives as their true Self, walking in step with what they believe is right. They see meaning in everything, and are on a continuous quest to adapt their lives and values to achieve inner peace. They're constantly aware and somewhat fearful of losing touch with themselves. Since emotional excitement is usually an important part of the ENFP's life, and because they are focused on keeping "centered", the ENFP is usually an intense individual, with highly evolved values.
An ENFP needs to focus on following through with their projects. This can be a problem area for some of these individuals. Unlike other Extraverted types, ENFPs need time alone to center themselves, and make sure they are moving in a direction which is in sync with their values. ENFPs who remain centered will usually be quite successful at their endeavors. Others may fall into the habit of dropping a project when they become excited about a new possibility, and thus they never achieve the great accomplishments which they are capable of achieving.
Most ENFPs have great people skills. They are genuinely warm and interested in people, and place great importance on their inter-personal relationships. ENFPs almost always have a strong need to be liked. Sometimes, especially at a younger age, an ENFP will tend to be "gushy" and insincere, and generally "overdo" in an effort to win acceptance. However, once an ENFP has learned to balance their need to be true to themselves with their need for acceptance, they excel at bringing out the best in others, and are typically well-liked. They have an exceptional ability to intuitively understand a person after a very short period of time, and use their intuition and flexibility to relate to others on their own level.
Because ENFPs live in the world of exciting possibilities, the details of everyday life are seen as trivial drudgery. They place no importance on detailed, maintenance-type tasks, and will frequently remain oblivous to these types of concerns. When they do have to perform these tasks, they do not enjoy themselves. This is a challenging area of life for most ENFPs, and can be frustrating for ENFP's family members.
An ENFP who has "gone wrong" may be quite manipulative - and very good it. The gift of gab which they are blessed with makes it naturally easy for them to get what they want. Most ENFPs will not abuse their abilities, because that would not jive with their value systems.
ENFPs sometimes make serious errors in judgment. They have an amazing ability to intuitively perceive the truth about a person or situation, but when they apply judgment to their perception, they may jump to the wrong conclusions.
ENFPs who have not learned to follow through may have a difficult time remaining happy in marital relationships. Always seeing the possibilities of what could be, they may become bored with what actually is. The strong sense of values will keep many ENFPs dedicated to their relationships. However, ENFPs like a little excitement in their lives, and are best matched with individuals who are comfortable with change and new experiences.
Having an ENFP parent can be a fun-filled experience, but may be stressful at times for children with strong Sensing or Judging tendancies. Such children may see the ENFP parent as inconsistent and difficult to understand, as the children are pulled along in the whirlwind life of the ENFP. Sometimes the ENFP will want to be their child's best friend, and at other times they will play the parental authoritarian. But ENFPs are always consistent in their value systems, which they will impress on their children above all else, along with a basic joy of living.
ENFPs are basically happy people. They may become unhappy when they are confined to strict schedules or mundane tasks. Consequently, ENFPs work best in situations where they have a lot of flexibility, and where they can work with people and ideas. Many go into business for themselves. They have the ability to be quite productive with little supervision, as long as they are excited about what they're doing.
Because they are so alert and sensitive, constantly scanning their environments, ENFPs often suffer from muscle tension. They have a strong need to be independent, and resist being controlled or labelled. They need to maintain control over themselves, but they do not believe in controlling others. Their dislike of dependence and suppression extends to others as well as to themselves.
ENFPs are charming, ingenuous, risk-taking, sensitive, people-oriented individuals with capabilities ranging across a broad spectrum. They have many gifts which they will use to fulfill themselves and those near them, if they are able to remain centered and master the ability of following through.
My Feelings about my Results:
Ouch! What an eye-opener! First I want to list the strengths and weaknesses that the test says that my personality involves:
Weaknesses:
Tendency to be smothering
Their enthusiasm may lead them to be unrealistic
Uninterested in dealing with "mundane" matters such as cleaning, paying bills, etc.
Hold onto bad relationships long after they've turned bad
Extreme dislike of conflict
Extreme dislike of criticism
Don't pay attention to their own needs
Constant quest for the perfect relationship may make them change relationships frequently
May become bored easily
Have difficulty scolding or punishing others
A few of the weaknesses are far from the truth! The tendency to be smothering in relation to a relationship is the opposite. I hate to be smothered. I like to have time to myself. Its true that sometimes I dont pay attention to my own needs. The idea that mundane matters such as paying bills, are uninterested. Yes, who likes to pay bills. But for a 21 year old with two jobs, I am very responsible when it comes to paying my bills, IN ADVANCE!
Overall: I believe the test is a good way to look at my personality. I am very extraverted but it took years to reach this point. I was once quite and reserved and I learned that the world will run you over. In high school and towards reaching adulthood, I began to exude my inner "loudness" sort of speak to the outside. Not in a wild and crazy way but in a way that shows, I'm not the one to play with". I believe this can help me trangress into narrowing my career goals. Being an introvert can help or hinder opportunities. On the other hand being an extravert can come off as "cocky", but at the same time can appear to be open and not shy. Either way, my personality changes with my mood. But most of the time I am an Extravert!
The Inspirer
As an ENFP, your primary mode of living is focused externally, where you take things in primarily via your intuition. Your secondary mode is internal, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit in with your personal value system.
ENFPs are warm, enthusiastic people, typically very bright and full of potential. They live in the world of possibilities, and can become very passionate and excited about things. Their enthusiasm lends them the ability to inspire and motivate others, more so than we see in other types. They can talk their way in or out of anything. They love life, seeing it as a special gift, and strive to make the most out of it.
ENFPs have an unusually broad range of skills and talents. They are good at most things which interest them. Project-oriented, they may go through several different careers during their lifetime. To onlookers, the ENFP may seem directionless and without purpose, but ENFPs are actually quite consistent, in that they have a strong sense of values which they live with throughout their lives. Everything that they do must be in line with their values. An ENFP needs to feel that they are living their lives as their true Self, walking in step with what they believe is right. They see meaning in everything, and are on a continuous quest to adapt their lives and values to achieve inner peace. They're constantly aware and somewhat fearful of losing touch with themselves. Since emotional excitement is usually an important part of the ENFP's life, and because they are focused on keeping "centered", the ENFP is usually an intense individual, with highly evolved values.
An ENFP needs to focus on following through with their projects. This can be a problem area for some of these individuals. Unlike other Extraverted types, ENFPs need time alone to center themselves, and make sure they are moving in a direction which is in sync with their values. ENFPs who remain centered will usually be quite successful at their endeavors. Others may fall into the habit of dropping a project when they become excited about a new possibility, and thus they never achieve the great accomplishments which they are capable of achieving.
Most ENFPs have great people skills. They are genuinely warm and interested in people, and place great importance on their inter-personal relationships. ENFPs almost always have a strong need to be liked. Sometimes, especially at a younger age, an ENFP will tend to be "gushy" and insincere, and generally "overdo" in an effort to win acceptance. However, once an ENFP has learned to balance their need to be true to themselves with their need for acceptance, they excel at bringing out the best in others, and are typically well-liked. They have an exceptional ability to intuitively understand a person after a very short period of time, and use their intuition and flexibility to relate to others on their own level.
Because ENFPs live in the world of exciting possibilities, the details of everyday life are seen as trivial drudgery. They place no importance on detailed, maintenance-type tasks, and will frequently remain oblivous to these types of concerns. When they do have to perform these tasks, they do not enjoy themselves. This is a challenging area of life for most ENFPs, and can be frustrating for ENFP's family members.
An ENFP who has "gone wrong" may be quite manipulative - and very good it. The gift of gab which they are blessed with makes it naturally easy for them to get what they want. Most ENFPs will not abuse their abilities, because that would not jive with their value systems.
ENFPs sometimes make serious errors in judgment. They have an amazing ability to intuitively perceive the truth about a person or situation, but when they apply judgment to their perception, they may jump to the wrong conclusions.
ENFPs who have not learned to follow through may have a difficult time remaining happy in marital relationships. Always seeing the possibilities of what could be, they may become bored with what actually is. The strong sense of values will keep many ENFPs dedicated to their relationships. However, ENFPs like a little excitement in their lives, and are best matched with individuals who are comfortable with change and new experiences.
Having an ENFP parent can be a fun-filled experience, but may be stressful at times for children with strong Sensing or Judging tendancies. Such children may see the ENFP parent as inconsistent and difficult to understand, as the children are pulled along in the whirlwind life of the ENFP. Sometimes the ENFP will want to be their child's best friend, and at other times they will play the parental authoritarian. But ENFPs are always consistent in their value systems, which they will impress on their children above all else, along with a basic joy of living.
ENFPs are basically happy people. They may become unhappy when they are confined to strict schedules or mundane tasks. Consequently, ENFPs work best in situations where they have a lot of flexibility, and where they can work with people and ideas. Many go into business for themselves. They have the ability to be quite productive with little supervision, as long as they are excited about what they're doing.
Because they are so alert and sensitive, constantly scanning their environments, ENFPs often suffer from muscle tension. They have a strong need to be independent, and resist being controlled or labelled. They need to maintain control over themselves, but they do not believe in controlling others. Their dislike of dependence and suppression extends to others as well as to themselves.
ENFPs are charming, ingenuous, risk-taking, sensitive, people-oriented individuals with capabilities ranging across a broad spectrum. They have many gifts which they will use to fulfill themselves and those near them, if they are able to remain centered and master the ability of following through.
My Feelings about my Results:
Ouch! What an eye-opener! First I want to list the strengths and weaknesses that the test says that my personality involves:
Good communication skills
Very perceptive about people's thought and motives
Motivational, inspirational; bring out the best in others
Warmly affectionate and affirming
Fun to be with - lively sense of humor, dramatic, energetic, optimistic
Strive for "win-win" situations
Driven to meet other's needs
Usually loyal and dedicated
Weaknesses:
Tendency to be smothering
Their enthusiasm may lead them to be unrealistic
Uninterested in dealing with "mundane" matters such as cleaning, paying bills, etc.
Hold onto bad relationships long after they've turned bad
Extreme dislike of conflict
Extreme dislike of criticism
Don't pay attention to their own needs
Constant quest for the perfect relationship may make them change relationships frequently
May become bored easily
Have difficulty scolding or punishing others
A few of the weaknesses are far from the truth! The tendency to be smothering in relation to a relationship is the opposite. I hate to be smothered. I like to have time to myself. Its true that sometimes I dont pay attention to my own needs. The idea that mundane matters such as paying bills, are uninterested. Yes, who likes to pay bills. But for a 21 year old with two jobs, I am very responsible when it comes to paying my bills, IN ADVANCE!
Overall: I believe the test is a good way to look at my personality. I am very extraverted but it took years to reach this point. I was once quite and reserved and I learned that the world will run you over. In high school and towards reaching adulthood, I began to exude my inner "loudness" sort of speak to the outside. Not in a wild and crazy way but in a way that shows, I'm not the one to play with". I believe this can help me trangress into narrowing my career goals. Being an introvert can help or hinder opportunities. On the other hand being an extravert can come off as "cocky", but at the same time can appear to be open and not shy. Either way, my personality changes with my mood. But most of the time I am an Extravert!
Exercise #1: What is your touchstone?
Brianna Dream: FBI agent
Touchstone: Financial Stability/helping Victims
Role Model: Cassandra Chandler (African American Woman, Special Agent for FBI)
Target: unlimited possibilities for living my life to the fullest without financial constraints
Reading the Goalsearch chapter made me realize that this entire time that I have been setting short-term goals, I have been doing it wrong. For example, I will organize and set a date and believe that this is "set in blood" and if I falter then I fail. For years, I have set milestone days to lose weight and within a week of "messing" up I quit. Now I know that mistakes make the goal stronger. This has now encouraged me to try losing weight again!
As for my career goals (Long-Term), I know that I don't want a stereotypical job from 9-5. I dont want to sit behind a desk and do busy work that I will hate. Having the perfect job that interests me, will help me overall in life. Mood, emotions, and well-being will be improved. Money makes our world revolve and studies have shown that when a person is finacially stable, other factors in their lives are high, such as family and social aspects.
My goal is two fold. Yes, I want to financial stability, but I also want to gain training and expertise in the field of Criminal Justice so that I can solve cases and help victims.
Touchstone: Financial Stability/helping Victims
Role Model: Cassandra Chandler (African American Woman, Special Agent for FBI)
Target: unlimited possibilities for living my life to the fullest without financial constraints
Reading the Goalsearch chapter made me realize that this entire time that I have been setting short-term goals, I have been doing it wrong. For example, I will organize and set a date and believe that this is "set in blood" and if I falter then I fail. For years, I have set milestone days to lose weight and within a week of "messing" up I quit. Now I know that mistakes make the goal stronger. This has now encouraged me to try losing weight again!
As for my career goals (Long-Term), I know that I don't want a stereotypical job from 9-5. I dont want to sit behind a desk and do busy work that I will hate. Having the perfect job that interests me, will help me overall in life. Mood, emotions, and well-being will be improved. Money makes our world revolve and studies have shown that when a person is finacially stable, other factors in their lives are high, such as family and social aspects.
My goal is two fold. Yes, I want to financial stability, but I also want to gain training and expertise in the field of Criminal Justice so that I can solve cases and help victims.
Wednesday, September 9, 2009
Doing something that I love (In-Class Assignment)
My favorite thing that I love to do is, when I have the free time, I like to snuggle up on the couch with a snack and watch episodes of real life police drama. For example, Forensic Files, Jail, the First 48 etc. I hate the drama shows like NCIS or CSI. My overall goal is to help Victims in the Heinous Crime unit of the FBI. I know that one can not even apply to the FBI without the necessary law enforcement or college background. On Saturday night I was walking with my boyfriend and notice a detective sitting in the car waiting for his partner. At first I was hesistant, but I walked up to the detective and engaged in a little chit chat. I told him that I was a senior and will graduate with a Bachelors in Criminal Justice Major in May 2010 and I wanted to know what internships were available with the Chicago Police Department. The detective gave me some background and general info and then he gave me the number to the Human Resources Department of the Police. I am currently in contact with the department.
Interview with 5 Friends
Question asked to all friends, What do you think are my greatest gifts/strengths?
Friend #1 Jennifer : My Best Friend
Jennifer said that my greatest strength is that I am a great listener in comparison to our other best friend. She says that I am the person that she asks for advice before her sister and her mother because they will only put her down and go off on a tangent about themselves.
Friend #2 Jarrell: My boyfriend of 1 year and 3 months
Jarrell says that my greatest gift is that I care too much for people. He says that I am a truly caring person even when someone has done me wrong I still try to show compassion, but he also says that could be a downfall or weakness. The conversation strayed from my strengths to me being a strong dominate person.
Friend #3 Justen: Friend from High School
Justen says that my greatest strength is that I can take criticism and let it roll of my back.
Friend #4 Jessica: Friend from Freshmen Year Psychology Class
I met Jessica Freshmen Year of college in a random situation. She had missed a week of classes and asked me for my notes. I also offered to tutor her for the test. When asked, she said that I went above and beyond what she asked for and she appreciated my caring spirit.
Friend #5: Pierre : Ex-Boyfriend
I saved the best for last! Me and Pierre were together for two years. We knew each other inside and out. We expressed our attractions to each other mentally and physically within the first few months of being together. You must be thinking, why did we breakup? That's the thing, we were so enthralled with each other it became smothering. I noticed that Pierre was very egotistical and arrogant and it made me sick. He said that my strengths was that I was sweet and he knew that I was a "good" and wholesome girl that he thought he would marry and women after me have fallen short of his expectations. The reason why I saved this for last is because he was the first person to ask me what were his strengths. (Hmm...sounds like the arrogance kicking in) I couldnt think of anything off hand so I told him his weaknesses instead. If there were strengths in him, perhaps it would outweigh his weaknesses.
Friend #1 Jennifer : My Best Friend
Jennifer said that my greatest strength is that I am a great listener in comparison to our other best friend. She says that I am the person that she asks for advice before her sister and her mother because they will only put her down and go off on a tangent about themselves.
Friend #2 Jarrell: My boyfriend of 1 year and 3 months
Jarrell says that my greatest gift is that I care too much for people. He says that I am a truly caring person even when someone has done me wrong I still try to show compassion, but he also says that could be a downfall or weakness. The conversation strayed from my strengths to me being a strong dominate person.
Friend #3 Justen: Friend from High School
Justen says that my greatest strength is that I can take criticism and let it roll of my back.
Friend #4 Jessica: Friend from Freshmen Year Psychology Class
I met Jessica Freshmen Year of college in a random situation. She had missed a week of classes and asked me for my notes. I also offered to tutor her for the test. When asked, she said that I went above and beyond what she asked for and she appreciated my caring spirit.
Friend #5: Pierre : Ex-Boyfriend
I saved the best for last! Me and Pierre were together for two years. We knew each other inside and out. We expressed our attractions to each other mentally and physically within the first few months of being together. You must be thinking, why did we breakup? That's the thing, we were so enthralled with each other it became smothering. I noticed that Pierre was very egotistical and arrogant and it made me sick. He said that my strengths was that I was sweet and he knew that I was a "good" and wholesome girl that he thought he would marry and women after me have fallen short of his expectations. The reason why I saved this for last is because he was the first person to ask me what were his strengths. (Hmm...sounds like the arrogance kicking in) I couldnt think of anything off hand so I told him his weaknesses instead. If there were strengths in him, perhaps it would outweigh his weaknesses.
What do you love?
Interview with my Mom
According to my mom, I was a peculiar child. She said that I had an "old" soul. I grew up around mostly adults in my family, even the closest of cousins were teenagers. She said that when she would be getting ready for work and making me breakfast, instead of watching Sesame Street or Barney, I preferred the Soap Operas. I would engage with the dialogue as if I knew what was going on. My mother believes that the Day Care I attended really gave me a head start in life. My preschool and homework regime in conjuction to my mother stressing Education gave me an early push to life.
What things did I like to Play?
My mother said that I would constantly play with either a chalkboard, cash register, or my baby Mickey. The baby Mickey Mouse was a doll that I carried around from the age of 2 until I was 10. I took him to school, grocery store, grandma's house, etc. I treated him like he was my baby. She noticed that I had an obsession for Cash Registers. I would beg and beg for the next biggest and flashiest cash register. I asked my mom if she thinks I loved them for the money and she said no, she believes I liked the interaction that I had with "imaginary customer". She also said that I would like to play school and set up my bedroom as if it was a classroom. She hung up educational inspirations on my wall and different academic media would be scattered throughout my room.
What did she think I would become would I grew up?
My mom states that she thaught I would be a teacher or scientist. I asked her why and she said I was fascinated with both outlets. I excelled in school and I like to help others.
Interview with my Mom
According to my mom, I was a peculiar child. She said that I had an "old" soul. I grew up around mostly adults in my family, even the closest of cousins were teenagers. She said that when she would be getting ready for work and making me breakfast, instead of watching Sesame Street or Barney, I preferred the Soap Operas. I would engage with the dialogue as if I knew what was going on. My mother believes that the Day Care I attended really gave me a head start in life. My preschool and homework regime in conjuction to my mother stressing Education gave me an early push to life.
What things did I like to Play?
My mother said that I would constantly play with either a chalkboard, cash register, or my baby Mickey. The baby Mickey Mouse was a doll that I carried around from the age of 2 until I was 10. I took him to school, grocery store, grandma's house, etc. I treated him like he was my baby. She noticed that I had an obsession for Cash Registers. I would beg and beg for the next biggest and flashiest cash register. I asked my mom if she thinks I loved them for the money and she said no, she believes I liked the interaction that I had with "imaginary customer". She also said that I would like to play school and set up my bedroom as if it was a classroom. She hung up educational inspirations on my wall and different academic media would be scattered throughout my room.
What did she think I would become would I grew up?
My mom states that she thaught I would be a teacher or scientist. I asked her why and she said I was fascinated with both outlets. I excelled in school and I like to help others.
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